Some of you may wonder why I am not divorcing my wife. We have sex at most once or twice a month. I would like to have sex at least a few times a week. We have tried a number of things to make this work for us, but I think the essence of it is not going to change. I would like to divorce her, but it's not as easy as you think it is. It's not that I can just go to a lawyer, call her up and serve her the papers. Do I really want to live a pathetic, divorcee's life with two young children requiring years of child support? Do I really want my children to not have a father in their lives? Do I really want to wade through some custody battle? The answer is no. The lack of (enough) sex is not a sufficient reason to let things collapse completely.
Am I happy? I don't think I am. But there are many of you out there who are just as unhappy as I am, and you figured out your various ways of coping. I don't see how getting a handjob is hurting anybody. Unless you make an argument that there is such a thing as a victimless crime. That's my way. You can judge all you want and call it whatever you wish, but while I do feel guilty about it sometimes I despise you and your moral high ground. You don't know what you are talking about and you are just going to the same hell as I am.